How do children learn? This article explains the different factors affecting how children learn, and how this helps you to best work with your child.

By Sue Clarke, teacher and trainer, British Council


Your child is an individual and different from all others. The way your child learns best depends on many factors: age, learning style and personality. Read the notes below, and think about your child. This will help you to choose activities and methods that will suit your child best.

Children pass through different stages of learning

  • A baby or infant learns about the world through the senses.
  • From about two until seven years old the child starts to develop the ability to reason and think, but is still self-centred.
  • After the age of about seven a child usually becomes less self-centred and can look outside themselves. By the age of 12 most children can reason and test out their ideas about the world.
  • This means that with younger children we need to personalise and give examples which relate to themselves, whereas older children need help to make sense of the world around them. This also means that children must be at the right stage of learning. For example younger children are ready to learn about numbers, colours and shapes but are not ready for abstract grammatical rules.

What kind of learner is your child?

  • It is important to understand how your child likes to learn best. Which are the child's dominant senses? Do they like pictures and reading? If so you can encourage your child to use drawings, pictures, maps or diagrams as part of their learning.
  • Some children like listening to explanations and reading aloud. You could use stories to encourage this kind of child. And most children enjoy learning through songs, chants and rhymes.
  • Does your child like to touch things and physically move about? Some children have lots of energy! You could play games to get them moving or running around, acting out rhymes or stories or even dancing!
  • Quieter children may have a good vocabulary and be good readers. Word games, crosswords, wordsearches, anagrams and tongue twisters would be good to encourage these children.
  • Other children require logical, clear explanations of rules and patterns, or like to work out the rules for themselves. They may be good at maths too. For these children, activities such as puzzles, problem-solving, ordering or categorising provide ideal opportunities for learning.

What kind of interaction does your child prefer?

  • Some children are outgoing and sociable and can learn a language quickly because they want to communicate. They are not worried about making mistakes.
  • Other children are quieter and more reflective. They learn by listening and observing what is happening. They don't like to make mistakes and will wait until they are sure.
  • If your child is outgoing they may prefer learning in groups with other children, whereas a quieter child may need more private, quiet time to feel more secure about learning a language. A bedtime story in English could be an opportunity to provide this quiet time.

Motivating your child

  • For a child to be motivated, learning needs to be fun and stress-free. Encourage them to follow their own interests and personal likes. For example if your child likes football he or she will probably like to read a story about football even if the level is a little difficult. Interest and motivation often allow children to cope with more difficult language.
  • Try to provide as many fun activities as you can for learning English. Songs and music, videos and DVDs, and all sorts of games are motivating for children.

For how long can your child concentrate?

Children can usually only concentrate for short periods of time. Make sure that you stop or change activity when your child is bored or restless. This might be after only a few minutes.

Correcting your child's mistakes

Children respond well to praise and encouragement – let your child know when they have done something well. Don't criticise them too much when they make a mistake. It's natural to make mistakes when learning a language. Don't correct every grammatical mistake – encourage your child to use English to communicate.

Repetition and routines

  • Children need to repeat language items many times to remember them so don't be afraid to repeat games or do several different activities with the same language topic or set of words.
  • Children often love to repeat the same song or story as it gives them a sense of confidence and familiarity.
  • Establishing a regular routine for homework is also important. Set a regular time for homework and help your child as necessary.
Do you or your child need more help with your English?


Hello! My son is now 3.8 years old.. I do not force him in anyway.. Bt i always think that bringing up in his communication level is much important.. I try to communicate wit him in english all time, bt he rarely respond me in english. But he can understand,.. What shall i do and how should i train him. Please guide me. He is almost good in learning and grasping things doing activities as well apart from communication.

Hello! Thanks for your comment.
Children go through a passive phase when learning a language. At the moment your son is busy absorbing the sounds, vocabulary and structures of English. Don't worry - when he is ready he will begin to respond to you in English, but be patient as the timing can vary greatly from one child to another.
The most important thing at this stage is that he feels at ease with the language and that learning English is an enjoyable experience for him.
Have a look at this thread in our forum - there are some suggestions of activities on LearnEnglish Kids to use with children of this age.
I hope that helps

Best wishes,
LearnEnglish Kids team

Hello! I am 66 and have 4 daughters, the olders (36, 31 and 30 years older) speak English and now my younger (8 in two months) wants to learn it too.
The problem is that I am retired from my Professor job (Chemical Engineering) and living in a place where there is no English School. As Leticia (my younger) has been asking me to teach her some English I feel oblied to do so, but I do not know how to do with kids! In the classroom my "kids" were 18 or older. A good English course is given only 125 km far from our home.
My little daughter loves to read and has seen some cartoons in English with a good comprehention and assimilation of many words and their meanings in Portuguese.
I thank you in advance for your kind attention and orientation.

Best regards,
Luiz Eduardo. 

Hi Luiz Eduardo,
You'll find lots of resources on LearnEnglish Kids for teaching English to your 8 year old daughter.
You could let her choose a topic for example clothes, weather, jobs etc. We have a huge range of topics to choose from
If you take the topic 'jobs' as an example, you could listen to a song
There are printable flashcards and worksheets to accompany the song.
You can play some word games to practise the vocabulary:
And finally your daughter could practise writing in our Your turn section:
On the British Council's Teaching English website you'll find lesson plans to use with some of the online resources on LearnEnglish Kids.
When you feel that your daughter is ready you can begin to teach her some grammar - you'll find videos, games, quizzes and tests in our grammar section.
I hope that helps - let us know how you get on!

Best wishes,
LearnEnglish Kids team

Thanks a lot for useful tips

the topic is really helpful and very easy to undersatnd :) keep it up

Thank you for your kind cooperation and for helpful information,

I find exactly what I need to know ( Try to practice what they are doing at school already and don't push them to do more than they are capable of, or could be expected at their age ).
and I will start to see spell section with him.

Best regards

Hello ;

I need an advice about writing skills ;what the proper age for little kid to start write letter only on tracing and when they must start training to write without tracing.
I have two children 3&4.5 ages ;they in international school and they study in english.
The young child in prk and start tracing only in school there are no homeworks and I don't know if I must training her at home.
The big child in KG1 he start writing with tracing and without it and evry week he has one homework; I try to train hem more than the homework so I don't know if that early or its wright to keep training hem.
Our native language is arabic but my children school's British curriculums

Best wishes and thanks in advance for your kind cooperation .

Hello, thanks for posting your question about writing skills.
It seems appropriate for your 3 year-old to be starting to trace letters and for your 4.5 year-old to be tracing and starting to write letters. I think that if your children are keen to do extra writing at home it is fine to do so. Try to practice what they are doing at school already and don't push them to do more than they are capable of, or could be expected at their age.

You might be interested in looking at our Speak and Spell section with your children. The songs and stories are based on the UK literacy programme Letters and Sounds. The songs in the 'Sounds' section are suitable for your three year-old:
And your 4.5 year-old can have fun listening for English phonemes with the stories in our 'Speak' section:

I hope that helps.
Best wishes,
LearnEnglish Kids team

I am Dewi from Indonesia. I am a teacher of fifth grade of Elementary School. My students really want to playing games everyday.
I can't download the games and the songs.
Is there any sites except Youtube ?
Thanks for the information about kids.
That's really useful for me.